How to Have a Great First Date

You have just met someone through online dating. Emails and phone calls have taken place—the next step is to meet for a first date. What are some ideas to ensure a great first date?

Ensuring safety: For your first date through an online dating site, you should make sure that you choose a spot where you both feel comfortable. You really don’t know each other yet, so select public, well-populated sites to meet; less discomfort may allow both of you to really connect.

  • Location is key: Since your goal is to learn more about the other person, you need to include an activity that will allow you to sit and talk. A nice dinner at a quiet restaurant or meeting for drinks at a local bar allows you to spend time chatting.
  • Encourage conversation: Now that you have picked a spot that allows for conversation, you need to make sure that you ask questions. Interests, hobbies, and travels tend to be safe topics. These areas also can lead to more organic conversation without making anyone uncomfortable.
  • Plan for an escape route: Every first date does not work out and you—or your date—may be looking for a way to escape. If you plan a low-key first portion, like meeting at a bar or for coffee, you can easily pull the plug or continue on with a movie, dinner, or a concert in the park.

You know that you have had a successful first date when you don’t realize that it’s time to go home—and when you can’t wait to see this person again. Online dating is a great way for people to get to know each other.